It’s been a busy year here at the Parenting by Connection blog, the Super-Protective Factor, full of parenting trials and tribulations, parenting advice, and wonderful success stories of parents using Parenting by Connection tools to solve day-to-day problems in their families.
Our readers’ favorite post of the year, by The Parent Scientist, Julianne Idleman, talked about how “Connecting with children when they express their emotional experience supports the essential elements of the parent-child relationship.” And it’s fitting that coming in at a very close second was the post by guest author Dr. Laura Markham of Aha! Parenting, discussing what’s wrong with using Time Out. “Instead of reaffirming your relationship with your child so she wants to please you, timeouts create a power struggle. They set up a relationship that pits you and your authority against your child.”
Other top posts of the year included success stories by a Fremont parent who needed to set a limit when her son desperately wanted to go to the park, parents who supported their young son when he couldn’t attend a birthday party, and a Parenting by Connection mom who was able to help her daughter finally sleep well in her own bed. “When I got up to go I gave her a big hug and she said, ‘I love you, Mommy,’ and went peacefully to sleep.”
Another favorite post of our readers this year was advice from Hand in Hand Founder, Patty Wipfler, on helping a toddler who was having an especially hard time with family coming in to visit over the holidays. Other very popular holiday posts included a mother who gave up Christmas presents and our post exploring the inevitable Holiday Meltdown, and how to best manage tantrums.
Our readers enthusiastically shared Parenting by Connection instructor Tosha Schore’s post on how squeezing in even five minutes of Special Time can affect your child’s entire day and a post explaining how delicate a child’s sense of connection can be and how to repair connection when it breaks. “Not feeling connected to an adult who has ‘got your back’ is very upsetting to a child. It causes them to lose touch with their good thinking.”
In 2012 we’ll be here to share our best thinking, our favorite success stories and to connect and listen to parents.
Wishing you and your families a warm, connected Holiday Season,
From all of us at Hand in Hand Parenting